By Sadho Ram
As you read this article, Sabitri, a 21 year old woman in Jharkhand’s Dhanbad city, has most probably succumbed to the unbearable pain caused by the injuries in her private parts given to her by the same man who happens to be the father of her 2 month old son – her husband – Sannimar Munda, a labourer.
As you read this article, Sabitri, a 21 year old woman in Jharkhand’s Dhanbad city, has most probably succumbed to the unbearable pain caused by the injuries in her private parts given to her by the same man who happens to be the father of her 2 month old son – her husband – Sannimar Munda, a labourer.
Theirs was an arranged marriage. They had tied knot in the year 2007 and had been living a normal life together. But it only takes a moment to change the course of life and so it was a moment’s fury over a small quarrel between the husband and wife that changed everything for everyone related to it – the husband, the wife and the 2 month old son.
According to the news published in Times of India on 14th of May, it so appears that – Sannimar Munda stitched the private parts of his wife – Sabitri – with wire after her request to visit her parents infuriated him.
Munda became angry when she said that she wanted to go to her parents’ home. He then charged her with having an extra-marital relationship.
Their quarrel took an inhuman turn when Munda tied her hands and legs and also gagged her by putting clothes in her mouth and started stitching her private parts with ‘steel wire’ (used for tightening fences and plaster bases created by iron rods). Still not satisfied by his horrible act, he then locked her up in a room and went out.
This is just one real life case of the atrocities that has been pouring upon the women in our civilised society in every part, corner and centre of today’s ‘raising’ India.
Whatever happened to uprightness!
According to the survey report of National Family health Survey-3 (NFHS-3) more than 35 percent of women have experienced physical or sexual violence. And this figure (35%) transforms into millions of women who have suffered, and continue to endure the atrocities, at the hands of their husbands and other family members.
And it’s not just the married women who are under constant fear and live at the so called ‘kindnesses’ of their ‘man’ but also the never married ones, who endures both – physical and sexual violence.
What is even worse is that most of those women do not even speak up or seek help when they are abused, and to top it all majority of women (54% to be precise) and men (51%) from our sensible society say that a husband is very much justified in beating his wife.
Sense, it seems, has been stitched and locked up inside a coffin to suffer and die (Just like our Sabitri).
And though, Sabitri had managed to escape from the room and somehow reached at her parents’ house. Her parents then took her to the ‘Patliputra Medical College and Hospital’ in Dhanbad and later logged a complaint against Munda. Police have registered First Information Report (FIR) against him on charges including attempt to murder, he has been hiding since then.
But who is going to help escape the “stitched and locked up sense” from the coffin and lodge a complaint against the millions and millions of those who are responsible for its miserable state along with the tortured women of our society?
Who?
Below is a small list of acts which falls under the category of Physical, Sexual and Emotional Violence against Women:
Physical Violence: Pushing, Shaking, Throwing something at her, Slapping, Arm twisting, Hair Pulling, Punching, Kicking, Dragging, Beating, Trying to choke or burn her on purpose, and threatening her or attacking her with a weapon.
Sexual Violence: Physically forcing the wife against her will to have sex or perform other sexual acts that she did not want to perform.
Emotional Violence: Saying or doing something to humiliate her in front of others, threatening to hurt or harm her or someone close to her, Insulting her or making her feel bad about herself.
The article also appears in an online newspaper YOUTH KI AWAAZ
Awareness & education to the women about it will help. Specially in the small towns, at the same time, men should also give given grooming how to treat a women.
ReplyDeleteThis story is one of the such incidence, i don't know how many goes in the silent tears with no F.I.R to support her!
@Saurav - Creating awareness and Education sure does help, my friend. But what to you think.. that these women are not literate?.. there is equal number of educated women who suffer in our society.
ReplyDeleteThe problem lies in the system and culture itself. A problem which is not at all easy to tackle even though there are societies and NOGs fighting for it.. its not easy to eradicate it.
साधो भाई ,आपका लेख पढ़ा |आपने यहाँ एक मजदूर के वेह्शियत की हद दर्शाई है , पर ऐसी घटनाएं सिर्फ अशिक्षित वर्ग तक सीमित नहीं है , दुःख की बात यह है की हमारे शिक्षित वर्ग में भी ऐसी घटनाएं होते रहती है | इसके पीछे सबसे बड़ा कारण है , " मैं पुरुष हूँ , मैं सर्वश्रेष्ट हूँ " ये मानसिकता , पुरुष की ये सोच ही उसे ऐसी घिनौनी और अमानवीय हरकतों के लिए उकसाती है | यही मैं सर्वश्रेष्ट वाली भावना ही पुरुष को हर मोड़ पर नारी को नीचा देखने के लिए उकसाती है | ये सोच जब तक बदलेगी नहीं , मेरे दोस्त ऐसी घटनाएं होती रहेंगी , चाहे कितना सख्त कानून लगा लो , चाहे कितना बदल दो पूरे system को , फिर भी कुछ नहीं बदलेगा |
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, this has nothing to do with education - it is the mindset or culture that we have where women are taught to accept their destiny - they are taught not to look for happiness or comfort, and their health, nutrition, safety... all are the last priorities in their families. This can only change if daughters are also seen as assets not as liabilities by their families (just like sons are seen as assets and are always wished for).
ReplyDeleteEqual rights and equal responsibilities for all children can change the attitude of the parents towards their girl children - which means all the children should be involved in taking care of their parents and families, all family members should be equally expected to provide financial self reliance for themselves...
The root of all these problems is that girls are seen as 'paraya dhan' and boys as 'budhape ki lathi' - all children need to be seen as budhape ki lathi.
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I couldn't agree with you more on this, ma'am, that - Girls too should be considered just as important and worthy as boys are.. but sadly except few exceptions it is not seen happening anywhere in India.
ReplyDeleteI never understand this.. that why Man are so cruel to those who are responsible for their (man's) very existance, never understood it...
Woman are the pillars of this society.. and untill we all understand this.. there will not be an equall growth of ours as human and of our country as Nation.
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